I decided to start with a very simple tool--HUGS-- one I have been practicing ALOT this week with my 2 year old daughter. Despite my costco size sanitizer bottles throughout the house, and being first in line for her to get the flu shot, the stomach flu finally caught up with us. The projectile vomiting (which always seems to happen in the middle of the night, doesn't it?) every half hour for 36 hours and then slow recovery put me into super mom/nurse mode. I am a nurturer by nature and overdosed on making sure she was cuddled and cozy. When she was BEGGING and crying for milk and hummus in between the Pedialyte I said I was sorry, the answer was no, and gave her a big hug. This made me feel better too. It reminded me that I shouldn't have to wait for her to be terribly sick to follow up with so many hugs! Cheesy? Maybe, but whatever works, right? The impact is even greater with our older kids (and partners too!)
Children do better when they feel better-- and so do you. Hugs help us feel better.
1) When your child is having a tantrum, try asking for a hug.
2) If your child says , "no" say "I need a hug" again.
3) If your child still says no, say "I need a hug; come find me when you are ready." (Then walk away.) You might be surprised at what happens.