Eye to Eye:
Have you noticed it doesn't work when you sit on the couch and yell at your child from across the room?
1) Stop whatever you are doing. Get up and get close enough to your child to see his or her eyes.
2) You will notice that you speak more softly when you make the respectful effort to see your child's eyes.
On another note, we are in week 4 of our Positive Discipline Parenting Class at Queen Anne. What an amazing group of parents! They continue to ask thoughtful questions and bring energy to the activities as they explore parenting tools first hand. Last week we focused on finding the belief behind a child's misbehavior, and will be taking time to observe our children's behavior to see what is really at the root of it. With our children who left us feeling annoyed and irritated, we imagined they were wearing a sign that said "Notice Me, Involve Me." This reminded us to use effective encouragement such as redirecting (assigning a task so children gain useful attention), setting up nonverbal signals, setting up routines, and spending special time.
Julietta Skoog, School Psychologist
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