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Listen

1/6/2012

 
I am a talker by nature. I always have been. In high school I was on the debate team, in college I was the one hogging the hallway phone, and later in life I married a quiet, patient man whom I do not have to compete with to continue my babbling. You can imagine the shock when my daughter did not say a single word (not even mama!) until over 21 months old. My mother said it was because she couldn't get a word in edgewise. Fortunately this does not carry over into my day job. As a school psychologist, I spend my day listening to children tell me their good news, bad news, and hopes. I know how therapeutic it is to let them be heard, and encourage them to "tell me more." Then I go home and try to practice the art of listening with my own now chatty daughter. After all, if I am not listening to her, then how can I expect her to learn through my example? This Positive Discipline parenting tool can have profound effects, and  is simply titled LISTEN:

Listen:
Children will listen to you AFTER they feel listened to.

1)Notice how often you interrupt, explain, defend your position, lecture or give a command when your child starts to talk to you.
2) Stop and just listen, it is okay to ask questions such as "Can you give me an example?? Is there anything else?"
3) When your child is finished, ask if he or she is willing to hear you.
4) After sharing, focus on a solution that works for both.

Happy New Year!

Julietta Skoog, School Psychologist
PS-To learn more about me or catch up on previous blog postings , you can go to my website here: julietta skoog
Kelsey link
1/30/2012 11:37:03 pm

I'm glad you posted this. How often do we actually stop and think about our listening skills? When I think back to the best friends I have ever had, they all had one thing in common: they were all great listeners. I feel this is an especially important point to keep in mind with children. Adults sometimes forget to listen to them because they are kids, but you teach by example and what better way to raise kids who listen than to exhibit great listening skills yourself?


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    I am Julietta Skoog, the school psychologist for Queen Anne Elementary and  preschool assessment team for Seattle Public Schools. See my bio for more exciting details of my life. Did I mention I am a gemini?

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